OT: Love letter (by Janet [KY]) Jul 22, 2018 3:52 PM
OT: Love letter (by Deanna [TX]) Jul 22, 2018 4:11 PM
OT: Love letter (by NE [PA]) Jul 22, 2018 4:14 PM
OT: Love letter (by Opinionated [NC]) Jul 22, 2018 4:35 PM
OT: Love letter (by Danny Vinyard [CA]) Jul 22, 2018 4:57 PM
OT: Love letter (by Mary [MI]) Jul 22, 2018 5:26 PM
OT: Love letter (by cjo'h [CT]) Jul 22, 2018 5:27 PM
OT: Love letter (by OPM [OR]) Jul 22, 2018 5:38 PM
OT: Love letter (by AL [NC]) Jul 22, 2018 6:11 PM
OT: Love letter (by plenty [MO]) Jul 22, 2018 7:13 PM
OT: Love letter (by plenty [MO]) Jul 22, 2018 7:22 PM
OT: Love letter (by AllyM [NJ]) Jul 22, 2018 7:22 PM
OT: Love letter (by Janet [KY]) Jul 23, 2018 8:27 AM
OT: Love letter (by plenty [MO]) Jul 23, 2018 8:29 AM
OT: Love letter (by S i d [MO]) Jul 23, 2018 9:08 AM
OT: Love letter (by cjo'h [CT]) Jul 23, 2018 1:47 PM
OT: Love letter (by James [GA]) Jul 23, 2018 2:13 PM
OT: Love letter (by Landlord ofthe Flies [TX]) Jul 23, 2018 3:48 PM
OT: Love letter (by Salernitana [CA]) Jul 23, 2018 8:24 PM
OT: Love letter (by LiveTheDream [AZ]) Jul 23, 2018 10:37 PM
OT: Love letter (by Linda [NY]) Jul 25, 2018 9:04 AM
OT: Love letter (by JB [OR]) Jul 25, 2018 1:03 PM
OT: Love letter (by cjo'h [CT]) Jul 25, 2018 3:24 PM
OT: Love letter (by Janet [KY]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 3:52 PM Message:
Ladies may be more help here... don't know. What are the symbols when signing a love letter, saying "Love you all ways"...
then your name... is it XXX ? Trying to make up with my DH after a 8 month separation... too long of a story to go into.
--74.236.xxx.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by Deanna [TX]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 4:11 PM Message:
X's are kisses. O's are hugs. XOXOXO is probably the most familiar version. But if it's not natural, feel free to substitute something that flows naturally.
"I love you all ways" and "I love you always" are two different thoughts. Make sure you write the meaning you intend to convey. :)
I dated DH long distance for about two years before we got married. We both still have our love letters. :) We emailed and talked on the phone--- but an actual letter in the mail was something to be looked forward to and reread over and over and over. :) Good luck! --166.137.xxx.xx |
OT: Love letter (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 4:14 PM Message:
If this post isn't a sign of the faith we put in each others advice on this form, I don't know what it is. --50.107.xxx.xx |
OT: Love letter (by Opinionated [NC]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 4:35 PM Message:
Do reconcile if possible. You'll almost certainly be glad you did.
--66.226.xx.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by Danny Vinyard [CA]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 4:57 PM Message:
“Though passion may have strained, it must not break our bonds of affection. The mystic chords of memory will swell when again touched, as surely they will be, by the better angels of our nature.” --65.202.xxx.x |
OT: Love letter (by Mary [MI]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 5:26 PM Message:
The words 'Love letters' on a Landlord website was so curious because they had such a significant meaning in my life recently. After a very long happy marriage my husband passed away a few months ago and I spent the first few weeks reading our love letters. Those letters brought so much comfort to me and we were 20 again. --68.32.xxx.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 5:27 PM Message:
Janet,love letters are not my expertise,been only married 62 years ,why not try the old standby,the telephone
.......................charlie............................................................ --174.199.x.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by OPM [OR]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 5:38 PM Message:
"I married the first man I ever kissed.
When I tell this to my children, they just about throw up."
-Barbara Bush --162.247.xx.xx |
OT: Love letter (by AL [NC]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 6:11 PM Message:
I have faith in you! Do what your heart tells you and expect nothing in return. Praying for you ) --24.179.xx.xx |
OT: Love letter (by plenty [MO]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 7:13 PM Message:
Use a "-ly" closing. One common way to close a letter is with a single word ending in "-ly" — an adverb.
[2] At the end of a letter, these words are usually used to describe the way you feel as you write the letter or wait for a reply. For love letters, you'll usually want to choose "-ly" words that emphasize how much you care about the person you're writing to or how excited you are to get a reply.
Ideas: "Devotedly," "Unquestioningly," "Truly," "Faithfully,"
Use when: You want an easy way to be descriptive about how you feel.
Don't use when: You're early on in a relationship. This can seem a little cliched or overly-formal.
Copied from Wipikia or however its spelled --99.203.xx.xx |
OT: Love letter (by plenty [MO]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 7:22 PM Message:
There is another quote: love you more today than yesterday but less than tomorrow.
Just write Love and Your Name and draw a heart around it.
How about kissing paper with lip stick on? Or spray of perfume? Old school? --99.203.xx.xx |
OT: Love letter (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Jul 22, 2018 7:22 PM Message:
The number 8 on it's side is the sign for infinity. Is that what you mean? Men like a chase. I would give him something to chase. I was never good at this except with the ones I didn't want. Unless you threw him out, leave off the mush and just be friendly and non committal but mention things about you and the relationship that you know he enjoyed. Then just sign it with no mush and see what happens. Be upbeat and sound happy. Did you make pies? If you did, mention that you just made a big whatever kind of pie and was thinking of him. I'm seeing a big pie. Even if you didn't make pies, tell him you just made a big blueberry pie. --73.178.xxx.xx |
OT: Love letter (by Janet [KY]) Posted on: Jul 23, 2018 8:27 AM Message:
Wow, you guys and gals are great. Thanks for all the suggestions. I actually left him because of his drinking and verbal abuse when he drank. Since I left him it sobered him up. Sorry it took that to get his attention. He tried for three months begging me back but I refused afraid he would go back to his old ways. now I decided to try it again and he is so hurt I refused him three months he is playing the hard to get, don't know if I want you back thing. He doesn't understand the hurt he caused me when he drank and I felt I had no choice but to leave.
Pray for us we can get our relationship back together, we were together 24 years and are within 5 years of our retirement age . I told him getting over a death of someone would be easier than going through what I have
suffered through during this separation from him.
--74.236.xxx.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by plenty [MO]) Posted on: Jul 23, 2018 8:29 AM Message:
((((Hugs and prays)))) --99.203.xx.x |
OT: Love letter (by S i d [MO]) Posted on: Jul 23, 2018 9:08 AM Message:
Dr. Sid here to share a few thoughts...
First, awesome that you are looking to reconcile. Many take the "easy" way out and divorce, only to find later that it's not as easy as they thought. 24 years is really something!
Second...your pain is real and the reasons are not fake. I think the separation was good. I don't think he has any reason to be aggrieved that you looked for signs of true repentance before considering taking him back. This is one area I'd follow up on before taking any serious steps toward reuniting. Does he acknowledge that his behaviors are what drove you away, or is there hint of blame that it was your fault? I can't see how he feel justified in playing hard to get now unless there is, as Paul Harvey said, "The rest of the story" that we haven't heard yet.
Third...seek professional help. I know this may not sound as romantic as a breathy note scented with perfume, but there are going to be a lot of hurt feelings around this on both sides. Real estate investors seek professionals to help us fixed houses, buy houses, sell houses, deed houses....why would we shrink back from paying a few (well spent) dollars and having a professional work thru all the baggage that remains? Relationships are not always a DIY event. I'd consider $5,000-$10,000 a small price to pay to salvage a marriage.
Finally, I wish you both the best. It sounds like both of your hearts are headed in the right direction to make this work. Take it slow, but keep moving in a positive direction. Pretend like you started dating all over again, and look for the signs before taking it to "the next level". Patience. Nurture that spark and it may once again grow into an all-consuming fire! --173.19.x.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Jul 23, 2018 1:47 PM Message:
Janet,didn't know the rest of the story.This is a different thing, One of the conditions of getting back together is he has to go to the AA meetings in the area for the rest of his life, Unlike what Sid said,very little money involved.but very necessary,otherwise you'll be in the same boat ten years from now........charlie........and no love letters ,you won't need them,alcohol is an addiction,and don't ever forget that, just like any other drug................................................................................. --174.199.x.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by James [GA]) Posted on: Jul 23, 2018 2:13 PM Message:
Janet -
Go write some some facts about why the separation and resolve. Sit across from him somewhere private and have him understand.
As someone going thru a hard time as well, I'll pray for you.
--62.216.xxx.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by Landlord ofthe Flies [TX]) Posted on: Jul 23, 2018 3:48 PM Message:
Just don’t use the combination of symbols “XOXO4$$$$” in that order or he might get the wrong impression. --98.6.xx.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by Salernitana [CA]) Posted on: Jul 23, 2018 8:24 PM Message:
This is a dumb question. Is it that he still doesn't
understand the hurt he caused you even though he's sober now? I completely support your decision to have left when you did if it was causing you to feel awful when your husband was verbally abusing you while he was drunk.
I agree with Brad that you might at least look into counseling and even something long-term such as AA or perhaps Al-Anon for yourself. I think that it would be good to hear from others who are in a similar situation and to feel less alone.
Please proceed carefully to protect yourself from a repeat performance if your husband returns to his ways. I'm not crazy that he's now playing hard to get. It sounds like he's hurt and blaming you for what you had to do to survive.
Take care.
--107.3.xxx.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by LiveTheDream [AZ]) Posted on: Jul 23, 2018 10:37 PM Message:
What a wonderful group of folks we have here! You guys touch my heart. :)
I agree with the others that you need to take this slow. It is terribly hard for people to change like that, but they can, if they try.
Not being much of a drinker myself I can't offer much advice on dealing with drunkards. But I think you guys need a number of sit down discussions, perhaps with a moderator. Also perhaps just some fun "date nights." Or maybe if things start improving take a 3-4 day honeymoon trip and see how things go.
Best wishes to you both. --47.216.xx.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by Linda [NY]) Posted on: Jul 25, 2018 9:04 AM Message:
Don't like the fact that he's being vindictive with the "hard to get" attitude. Maybe getting back together is not the right thing for either of you. Sorry for not going along with the consensus of the rest of the group. --67.199.xxx.xxx |
OT: Love letter (by JB [OR]) Posted on: Jul 25, 2018 1:03 PM Message:
Perhaps a case of beer with an "I miss you" card. :) --50.45.xxx.xx |
OT: Love letter (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Jul 25, 2018 3:24 PM Message:
JB,Don't think a case of beer is good for an alcoholic,that's what started this problem at the get go, perhaps the card OK...........charlie................................we don't know how lucky we are........................................ --174.199.xx.xxx |
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