How do you guys separate your house stuff from home stuff?

When I get home from being out trying to "conquer my world", my wife starts chatting as soon as I walk in the door and the kids are all over me.

That's fine, except my brain is still in house mode.

It takes me time to process my day and get set up for tomorrow and purge my mind onto paper or organize other things, etc.

Once I get into home mode I'm fine, but if I do it before purging the thoughts of the day into tomorrow's plan, tomorrow tends to get SNAFU'd

Not always, but sometimes.

Thoughts?

I use the drive time as well.

Have you tried talking to your wife? Really!

Tell her what you said here - you need to write stuff down before you forget it, plan for tomorrow, etc. (Once you get this done, you can focus totally on her & kids without being distracted.) Like you are still at work for a certain amount of time after arriving home. Make it specific like "I need 15 minutes, then I'm all yours." Go straight to your home office when you arrive (use the back door if you have one), then make sure you really come out in "15 minutes", and give her a kiss and your attention. After a week or so, everybody should adapt.

NE :

I have Grand Kids, your Kids age and older. (Five Boys)

Suggestions from a (Retired) Industrial Construction Supervisor.

When locking up tools, at work days end, (think Gang Box )

leave your thoughts, plans, and Super Duper Ideas in there

also, for Tomorrow.

Truth be known,what your looking for is a Learned Behavior,

that comes with Age, Injury and Desire to stay Married.

Also, I'm Not a "Honey, how was your day", kinda Guy. Dig ?

Square breathing. Inhale for a count of 5 seconds, hold for a count of 5 seconds, exhale for a count of 5 seconds, hold for a count of 5 seconds.

Yes RB, I'm definetly a "honey how was your day" guy either.

I need to walk around a bit, grumble, Huff and puff and get into the home zone, then feed the chickens.

Meant to say "definetly not".

The Trouble Tree

Author Unknown

The carpenter I hired to help me restore an old farmhouse had just finished a rough first day on the job. A flat tire made him lose an hour of work, his electric saw quit, and now his ancient pickup truck refused to start. While I drove him home, he sat in stony silence.

On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands. When opening the door he underwent an amazing transformation. His tanned face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.

Afterward he walked me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do earlier.

"Oh, that's my trouble tree," he replied." I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing's for sure, troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them on the tree every night when I come home. Then in the morning I pick them up again."

He paused. "Funny thing is," he smiled, "when I come out in the morning to pick 'em up, there ain't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before."

"How do you guys separate your house stuff from home stuff?"

i dont. Ive tried to but failed. Im too small to hire others. Legislation here is landlord hostile, the risks are very real. The environment is far left wing. It was never this unfair and unbalanced in the almost 30 yeaers Ive been a landlord in ontario.

The phone rings at dinner.........another disaster........another tenant being unreasonable.....more stress................i turn on the news and more tenants are demanding more rights and polticians have no backbone or common sense.

Open my email and another tenant with problems.

The worry and stress often ruins my sleep, making me tired for the next day.

We dont have a 1031 here..selling means the loss of years of hard hard work in equity.

I have come to realize, over the years, Ive spoilt tenants. At first they may have appreciated the service and low rents.....but now its expected.

Tying in to the mileage app thread.. My mileage log helps me 'debrief' as I pull in the driveway, and plan trips as I head out....

My teacher hubby had that problem, too. He didn't have much of a commute, and he just wanted to be home. When the kids were little, they were taught to run and hug Daddy, then make themselves scarce until it was time to help with dinner.

On a day that had been rough, he'd often either chop firewood for half an hour (great stress-buster), or head down to the basement to tinker. On a good day, we'd catch up on each other's day without kids tugging on us.