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Police health/safety chec (by Lynda [TX]) Apr 24, 2018 12:56 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by WMH [NC]) Apr 24, 2018 1:00 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by Deanna [TX]) Apr 24, 2018 1:18 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by myob [GA]) Apr 24, 2018 1:27 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by Barb [MO]) Apr 24, 2018 1:52 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by S i d [MO]) Apr 24, 2018 2:24 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by Busy [WI]) Apr 24, 2018 2:34 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by JB [OR]) Apr 24, 2018 2:39 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by AllyM [NJ]) Apr 24, 2018 3:06 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by Mickie [OH]) Apr 24, 2018 3:51 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by Lynda [TX]) Apr 24, 2018 4:03 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by Marie [MO]) Apr 24, 2018 4:45 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by Landlord ofthe Flies [TX]) Apr 24, 2018 5:44 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by RathdrumGal [ID]) Apr 24, 2018 7:13 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by Barbara [VA]) Apr 25, 2018 2:49 AM
       Police health/safety chec (by LindaJ [NY]) Apr 25, 2018 6:17 AM
       Police health/safety chec (by Sandy [CO]) Apr 25, 2018 8:45 AM
       Police health/safety chec (by plenty [MO]) Apr 26, 2018 6:24 AM
       Police health/safety chec (by cjo'h [CT]) Apr 26, 2018 12:13 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by cjo'h [CT]) Apr 26, 2018 12:24 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Apr 27, 2018 10:03 PM
       Police health/safety chec (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Apr 27, 2018 10:04 PM

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Police health/safety chec (by Lynda [TX]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 12:56 PM
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On the recent subject of "Unpleasantness" ...

Rec'd a call from my sister's ph# in NJ. I heard a loud, angry fight with lots of smashing going on. She was screaming "this is my house, my yard, you can't do this, I won't allow it!" An angry male (farther away) was screaming back at her with emphasis of bangs and rips and screams. I listened for about 5min not knowing what to do--then the phone just cut off. 2 tries to call her back did not ring/ connect. (What the ??) What to do??

Both her sons work, so at noon on a Tuesday I didn't think they would be home. But she has a boarder/lodger that lives with her and has keys. Or it could have been an intruder, or maybe she was confronting someone doing wrong on her property(selling drugs?)

She has MS and walks with the aid of a walker. If she got thrown down and couldn't get up, she might have laid there for hours till someone came home. Or once down, thieves could strip her house bare. She could be bleeding.

If I called any of her kids or friends to check on the situation I was afraid her personal business would end up all over facebook and the internet. So did what I thought would have the least collateral damage--I called her city police for a "health and safety check."

She told them she was just trying to get her son to help her clean up the yard. But that's NOT what *I* HEARD! Anyway, I am now the bad-guy who called the police on her. But I will shoulder that burden. Its better than having the police coming to my house to give me the sad news she was found dead. I'm still shaking, and heading for my 2nd glass of wine.

--108.87.xx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by WMH [NC]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 1:00 PM
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Lynda, you absolutely did the right thing! To do nothing would have been wrong. How could you hear that and not act? --50.82.xxx.xx




Police health/safety chec (by Deanna [TX]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 1:18 PM
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You did the right thing! Good going. :)

I remember one time, I was getting home around 11 at night. I hop out of the truck-- and the neighbors across the street are yelling and screaming, with their windows open.

"I JUST WANT TO KILL MYSELF!!!"

"OH YEAH?! MAYBE YOU SHOULD!!!!"

I drift a few steps down the sidewalk, trying to figure out how serious they are about the whole thing and if I need to call for an intervention. He snaps on the porch light and comes storming outside unexpectedly, and there I am, la la la, trying very hard to look like I'm just enjoying the night sky.... ooo, here I am turning around and drifting back towards my own gate... ooo, what a pretty night sky. :P --96.46.xxx.xx




Police health/safety chec (by myob [GA]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 1:27 PM
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Not that what we say matters but you did, in my book, what was needed. Here's why. If you did nothing and she was hurt or worse, killed, you would be feeling a lot worse than you do right now. People need to be involved.

YOU ARE THE GOOD GUY. --99.103.xxx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by Barb [MO]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 1:52 PM
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You did the right thing.

Hopefully it is a one time thing. You don't know the situation directly, though, and it is entirely possible that she is suffering from elder abuse. Since there is now a record of one call, they will check again the next time there is a call, and if a pattern is established, the authorities may take action.

My police friends would much rather make a health and safety check and it be nothing than miss one and have to inform a family member that their loved one was the victim of an attack.

I've called our campus police to do safety checks on students in the past, and been thanked by the student and parent of the student. To them, it was a sign that SOMEONE CARED enough to call and check on them. --131.151.xx.xx




Police health/safety chec (by S i d [MO]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 2:24 PM
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It can be painful to watch those we love in a bad situation who don't/can't speak for themselves, but we are sometimes called to speak for those who don't/can't speak for themselves. Keep loving your sister well, and if needed try a 3rd glass of wine. --173.17.xx.xx




Police health/safety chec (by Busy [WI]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 2:34 PM
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You did the right thing. Maybe in time your sister will even be able to tell you that. Cheers! --172.58.xxx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by JB [OR]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 2:39 PM
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Just chalk another one up to, no good deed goes unpunished... --50.45.xxx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 3:06 PM
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Did they go right away? I would have told them my sister is being beaten and forget about what goes on the social media. I'm betting the lodger went nuts. --69.141.xxx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by Mickie [OH]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 3:51 PM
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She might be upset with you at the moment but when you think she's cooled down a little call her and tell her how frightened you were for her and how important she is to you and that you love her and couldn't just do nothing when it sounded like something bad was in the process of happening. If something is going on she may need to talk to you. I can't imagine either of my brothers yelling and screaming at my mom. --199.253.xxx.xx




Police health/safety chec (by Lynda [TX]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 4:03 PM
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Turned out it wasn't the lodger, it was one of her sons she was fighting with. She called me back,furious. Said she did not call me on purpose, that her phone often calls back the last call if a button is pushed by mistake. It's called 'butt dialing'(?)

I am in the doghouse now. She will tell all her facebook GFs what happened. Next thing you know my daughters will be calling me to repremand me. If I had known it was HER son, or if she didn't have the illness of MS, I probably would have stayed my hand. It did NOT sound like a family argument. And she is vulnerable. Whatever it will eventually blow over. And I finished that bottle. --108.87.xx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by Marie [MO]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 4:45 PM
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You can call the police if you hear anyone shouting at me anytime! Good job! High Five! --98.156.xxx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by Landlord ofthe Flies [TX]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 5:44 PM
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Tell her to shut up and get over it. Sounds like a battered wife that rushes to the defense of the batterer. The only reason she's mad is because she actually has a problem. If it wasn't a problem, everyone would have had a good laugh over it. --108.69.xxx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by RathdrumGal [ID]) Posted on: Apr 24, 2018 7:13 PM
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LOTF nailed it. My husband is retired from 30 years as a counselor in the mental health system. Anytime someone threatened suicide or made "I just can't take it anymore" vague suicidal threats, the county designated mental health professional (the county employee with the ability to detain people against their will for psych holds) was called. Why? Because the person making suicidal statements was either 1) suicidal or 2) manipulative. If truly suicidal, the needed to be detained for their own protection. If manipulative, they needed to know that this manipulative behavior would not get them what they desired -- and too many fake calls would STILL earn them a trip to the local mental health unit.

Feel free to post this on your FB if your sister causes you grief. She needs to learn to lock the screen on her phone.

--98.146.xxx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by Barbara [VA]) Posted on: Apr 25, 2018 2:49 AM
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O.K., lets go with she was just trying to get her son to help her. The issue isn't that you got alarmed and called someone to check on her well being. The issue is she needs to get that aggressive in order to have her son help her? Your not the problem, her son is. --68.107.xxx.x




Police health/safety chec (by LindaJ [NY]) Posted on: Apr 25, 2018 6:17 AM
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Better to be safe than sorry... You got a call, heard threats, called for a check. You did the right thing, anyone of us would probably do that. If she were in a bad situation, you could have saved her life.

If you hear something, say something. --96.236.xx.xx




Police health/safety chec (by Sandy [CO]) Posted on: Apr 25, 2018 8:45 AM
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Would she have done the same for you if the situation were reversed? I would hope so.

She only has herself to blame for the situation. She was the one who inadvertently called you. She shouldn’t hold you responsible for doing what a normal caring person would do.

Maybe it was “meant to be”. Sometimes these things happen for a reason. The universe is telling her that she has a serious problem with this person and to correct it. --107.2.xxx.xx




Police health/safety chec (by plenty [MO]) Posted on: Apr 26, 2018 6:24 AM
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She certainly wasn't feeling the love that was intended. Seems like you weighted the situation carefully and responded correctly.

It was her phone that called you... Not you intruding on her but her own phone calling and involving you. Unintentional or otherwise... She involved you. She has a real good sister :) you! --99.203.xx.xx




Police health/safety chec (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Apr 26, 2018 12:13 PM
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Lynda,you did a good job.I would go a step further and call the local Elder abuse agency in your sisters area ,and relate to them what you did to us.My sister in Ireland had MS,so I know what's it like.No one in her condition should be subjected to that nonsense. ........charlie...................................feel free to get in touch anytime.................................... --174.199.x.xx




Police health/safety chec (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Apr 26, 2018 12:24 PM
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Oh!Lynda, there was more than three glasses left in that bottle,so go easy.........charlie..................................... --174.199.x.xx




Police health/safety chec (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Posted on: Apr 27, 2018 10:03 PM
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Lynda,

Call the police? Absolutely! But I would have reported an urgent domestic distrubance, not just a welfare check.

Based on what you wrote about what you heard and her reaction, *I* believe you heard a glimpse into what is really going on and she is ashamed. Yes, battered wife syndrome.

Shakspeare said it best “ The lady doth protest too much.”

If this were truly an episode with a normal stubborn teenager shw would have responded with something like. “Teens- whata ya do! I”ll be so glad when he’s grown thru this stage .“

And the police would have simply talked with them and let it go. No biggie.

AND she would have thanked you.

I think you just saw the tip of the hidden iceberg. Something is going on.

Like Sid said, time for extra love.

BRAD

--68.50.xxx.xxx




Police health/safety chec (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Posted on: Apr 27, 2018 10:04 PM
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PS I prefer the term Pocket Dialed.

And God works thru technology.

Just sayin.

BRAD --68.50.xxx.xxx



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