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kicking the bucket (by Nicole [PA]) Feb 11, 2018 8:27 AM
       kicking the bucket (by NC INVESTOR [NC]) Feb 11, 2018 8:51 AM
       kicking the bucket (by cjo'h [CT]) Feb 11, 2018 9:40 AM
       kicking the bucket (by Bill [NC]) Feb 11, 2018 10:46 AM
       kicking the bucket (by Bill [NC]) Feb 11, 2018 10:47 AM
       kicking the bucket (by Sparky [PA]) Feb 11, 2018 11:25 AM
       kicking the bucket (by S i d [MO]) Feb 11, 2018 11:32 AM
       kicking the bucket (by AllyM [NJ]) Feb 11, 2018 5:23 PM
       kicking the bucket (by cjo'h [CT]) Feb 11, 2018 6:03 PM
       kicking the bucket (by AllyM [NJ]) Feb 11, 2018 7:30 PM
       kicking the bucket (by Livethedream [AZ]) Feb 11, 2018 10:42 PM
       kicking the bucket (by AllyM [NJ]) Feb 12, 2018 8:16 AM
       kicking the bucket (by Wilma [PA]) Feb 12, 2018 12:21 PM
       kicking the bucket (by Ray-N-Pa [PA]) Feb 13, 2018 12:50 PM

kicking the bucket (by Nicole [PA]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 8:27 AM

This is often discussed here in different forms so this is a general, non gentle, reminder. Folks, please, get your personal, business, financial affairs in order ... at least some basics.

During the past 12 months, I lost five very close family members that I love and another will be within the next several months. They were not all elderly and infirm.

Knowing what the person wants to do but not having it memorialized onto paper doesn't help when there is a "step parent" involved.

When you are sick with a life-ending illness, you are often "okay" for quite a while ... and then one day you aren't. someone walking, talking, living life (although perhaps at a much slower pace) one day goes to bed and doesn't get up again and deal with what needs to be done.


kicking the bucket (by NC INVESTOR [NC]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 8:51 AM

Sorry for your losses. I can't begin to imagine losing so many in such a short period of time.

But it is an excellent reminder.We do not have a will or succession plan thinking the surviving spouse will simply inherit everything. Then something occurred that made us consider the possibility that we could both die at the same time. That's what finally motivated us to go to our estate attorney.

I think that, unless you are much older, none of us wants to think about our own mortality. --71.75.xx.xx

kicking the bucket (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 9:40 AM

Nicole, I'm going to live to 150, just to be a,well you know,and if I don't ,I'll come back to haunt them! And tell them what's out there,No one has come back to tell me,especially some of the people I thought would? ................charlie...............................................

kicking the bucket (by Bill [NC]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 10:46 AM

Already have my will, living will, durable power of attorney, etc., in place. Been to funeral home and selected casket, vault, etc. Also, have a "Do Not Resuscitate" in place.

kicking the bucket (by Bill [NC]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 10:47 AM

I keep telling everyone that when they visit my grave that I will be standing behind them.

kicking the bucket (by Sparky [PA]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 11:25 AM

Along those lines: Make sure your Beneficiary designations are up to date.

kicking the bucket (by S i d [MO]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 11:32 AM

Dying...yes, we all get there some day. Everyone who is age 18 or old should have: Will (yes, even college students), Durable Power of Attorney, Healthcare Power of Attorney, etc. those are basics every legal adult should have, regardless of whether their estate is worth $1 of $100,000,000. You simply don't KNOW what someone really wanted done unless it's on paper, and I've seen parts of my wife's family torn apart over an estate worth less than $50,000. --173.17.xx.xx

kicking the bucket (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 5:23 PM

Thanks for the reminder. I really need to do that. Very well said.

kicking the bucket (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 6:03 PM

Been to a local Funeral Parlour many times this past several years,but it's not to straighten up things,just to pay my respects.and it is getting frustrating,All my friends are leaving and none have come back to say where they've gone.Miss Ally,can you help?............charlie............................................................I don't really know what to think,things don't really add up...............................

kicking the bucket (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 7:30 PM

cjo'h I'm surprised. People from your country are sensitive to these kinds of things. Your friends are with you some times and sometimes traveling to special places and seeing special things. Your friends were at their funerals. Men like to see a lot of cars going to the cemetery. Women like to see a lot of flowers. If you call to them in kind of a prayer, they will come to see you. They will try to help you by making comments to you and giving you warnings. These you can hear or feel on the left side of your head. It's kind of a listening that you have to do. I'm partially deaf on that side so there is no sound coming in to get in the way of the quiet little comments they make. Remember when Jesus said "Whenever two or more of you are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of you." It doesn't just work with Jesus because when you stand around talking with another person about one of your friends or relatives that have passed, or a dog or cat, they come right to you. Loving spirits feel warm so you may feel a little hot flash. You might feel a touch o the top of your head or a little chill on your spine. There are a couple of books that you can read by Allison DuBois. One is "Don't kiss them goodbye". The other is "We are their Heaven". Or if you really want a scare, read "When Ghosts Speak". Can't remember the author's name but she talks about all the bad stuff too. They haven't gone anywhere that they can't visit from. Since you thought about this and posted it, you are probably surrounded right now. Are you feeling chilly?

kicking the bucket (by Livethedream [AZ]) Posted on: Feb 11, 2018 10:42 PM

I plan to die broke with my credit cards maxed out and let the last checks bounce. ;)

kicking the bucket (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Feb 12, 2018 8:16 AM

cjo'h, if you are asking why so many of your friends are passing it may be because people, men in particular, ignore symptoms until it's too late. I had no symptoms of uterine cancer and heard someone say to me in the night, "you have uterine cancer, get to a gynecologist". So I did and it was just in time, I hope but I do have to be checked every six months because there is the possibility of a return since it had progressed to Grade 1 but Stage 3. I remember a mental push for me to get checked prior to the auditory message but my doctor had moved quite a ways away through some bad traffic patterns and many of the ones I called were not taking patients. So some dead guy had to make a special visit to give me a verbal message.

kicking the bucket (by Wilma [PA]) Posted on: Feb 12, 2018 12:21 PM

Nicole, I am so sorry - I was in a similar place 4 years ago when my hubby and I lost 3 parents in under a year. The experience made me get our affairs in much better order. I was actually driving on a trip with my husband when I realized that if we both got hit by a semi, our young adult daughters would be totally clueless as to what we had and how to handle things.

I managed to gather all of the most important papers into one fireproof/waterproof locking file, which is hidden. Two close family members know where it and the two sets of keys are. The box has an overview folder with info about where other files are, who to contact, computer passwords, etc.

I update now during the first week of January every year. It makes me feel confident that when I'm gone, the ones behind will have a much easier time of it.

I'll echo what you said - DO IT NOW!

kicking the bucket (by Ray-N-Pa [PA]) Posted on: Feb 13, 2018 12:50 PM

In my mind, I am still young. I find myself comparing me to my Aunts and Uncles when they were my current age. I never seem to get caught up. But at least a few things are correct at this point - I am not going to live fore ever, and my hair disappeared from the top of my head and is growing out my ears.

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