Should I boot him? (by GKARL [PA]) Jan 11, 2018 1:53 PM|
Should I boot him? (by Jim in O C [CA]) Jan 11, 2018 2:01 PM
Should I boot him? (by WMH [NC]) Jan 11, 2018 2:49 PM
Should I boot him? (by Lynda [TX]) Jan 11, 2018 3:03 PM
Should I boot him? (by AllyM [NJ]) Jan 11, 2018 4:17 PM
Should I boot him? (by RB [MI]) Jan 11, 2018 5:23 PM
Should I boot him? (by Ken [NY]) Jan 11, 2018 5:26 PM
Should I boot him? (by AllyM [NJ]) Jan 11, 2018 5:42 PM
Should I boot him? (by S i d [MO]) Jan 11, 2018 6:06 PM
Should I boot him? (by GKARL [PA]) Jan 11, 2018 6:34 PM
Should I boot him? (by GKARL [PA]) Jan 11, 2018 6:48 PM
Should I boot him? (by Oregon Woodsmoke [ID]) Jan 11, 2018 10:05 PM
Should I boot him? (by S i d [MO]) Jan 12, 2018 6:05 AM
Should I boot him? (by GKARL [PA]) Jan 12, 2018 7:18 AM
Should I boot him? (by GKARL [PA]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 1:53 PM
I have a no visitors rule in my rooming house and there's one tenant who's a slob who has violated that rule twice; he had his brother in his room one time and a couple of days ago, his mother came by to "help him clean up". I'm on the fence since these are relatives, but the rule is that you request permission before just bringing folks in. A part of me doesn't want to be too harsh, but the other part says an example must be made or I'll have everyone flaunting the rules. As I mentioned, the tenant is a slob, he messes up the bathroom, his room is a mess and he comes off as being drugged on occasion although I'm not 100% certain of that. He's never had a problem with paying rent however, but doing that is only one requirement. I've warned him about all of this on at least one other occasion.
Should I throw him out?
Should I boot him? (by Jim in O C [CA]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 2:01 PM
The short answer is yes. Rules are rules and no good can come from not enforcing them. Other tenants will see that rules can be ignored and start to do it. --75.22.xx.xx
Should I boot him? (by WMH [NC]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 2:49 PM
I'd tend to disagree. He has family, a support system who are willing to help him. My DH is a slob and without me, he'd be lost.
What about OTHERWISE? Is he respectful, non-belligerent, etc?
It's a rooming house. --50.82.xxx.xx
Should I boot him? (by Lynda [TX]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 3:03 PM
If it was me, I wouldn't do it now but might in the future if it became too much. The rule is basically to keep out druggie friends, prostitutes, shack-up turnovers, in other words to keep out possible trouble. Short-time relatives I would allow on a case to case basis. Especially if they are helping him clean the place. So far, he's the only one who flaunted the rule, and no harm done, and maybe none of the others ever will flaunt it. So till they do, you don't really have a reason to lay down the law.
"Don't sweat the small stuff." There will be many future actions where you will have to make a stand and make an example of someone. This situation probably isn't it. --108.87.xx.xxx
Should I boot him? (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 4:17 PM
If he's a slob and therefore a problem, perhaps you should move him along before he gets worse. Sounds like the visitors did not want him in their homes so now he is in yours. Time bomb waiting to explode. --73.33.xxx.xxx
Should I boot him? (by RB [MI]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 5:23 PM
As the Rooming House Turns !
To Boot or Not to Boot,
a Slob tenant who Pays rent on time.
Consider All of your (Crazy) possible alternatives.
Do what ya gotta do.
Should I boot him? (by Ken [NY]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 5:26 PM
Ally,almost everyone who chooses to live in a rooming house is a time bomb waiting to happen,lots of instability in rooming houses.I find it hard to believe that you want to tell people they aren't allowed to have friends or relatives come to the house but you are doing a better job managing the place than I did with mine so I won't give you a hard time over it --72.231.xxx.xxx
Should I boot him? (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 5:42 PM
Ken your statement made no sense. I think you are confusing me with the original poster or high or drunk. --73.33.xxx.xxx
Should I boot him? (by S i d [MO]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 6:06 PM
First, what do you mean by "no guests?" No one can sleep over night? No one can come over AT ALL? Clarity, please!
How about a compromise similar to hospital "visiting hours?" Or maybe only visitors on certain days? I'm sure folks like to have people stop by, and as long as everyone's sleep schedule and personal space/possessions are respected I think they'd appreciate it. --173.19.xx.xxx
Should I boot him? (by GKARL [PA]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 6:34 PM
No guests unless approved by me is the policy. If someone needs a caretaker (as was the case with one tenant), I will not withhold approval. There was one person who needed a relative to come by to watch her kids which I approved. Another tenant had visitation every other week with his kid, which I approved.
I came up with this policy initially because I didn't know what sort of tenants I would have and I did not want conflicts to break out between guests and other tenants or folks running in and out of the building at various times. As it turns out, the tenants I have are far better than I anticipated. I've thought about changing it but am not sure what I'd want to change it too. I definitely would not allow overnight visitors. There are 9 roomers with shared kitchens and baths if everyone had a visitor, that's 18+ people using up water and potentially messing around in the kitchens and baths. That drives up costs and concerns and that's the main reason I've not changed.
Should I boot him? (by GKARL [PA]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 6:48 PM
WMH: Other than being a slob and breaking the visitation rule, he's not been a problem. He pays his rent. One time he locked himself out and broke into his room breaking the door jam. I have to fix that and charge him. He seems drugged and spaced out at times and lucid at other times.
Ally: I think you may be right on his folks wanting to get rid of him. When he first moved in, they all came to help him move in and get settled. When I confronted him with his first violation of the no visitor rule, he mentioned something about some family issues that were depressing him. There's something that going on with him, but it's not my place to sort that. --207.172.xx.xxx
Should I boot him? (by Oregon Woodsmoke [ID]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2018 10:05 PM
I'd give him permission to have his mom come over to clean. I can't see much problem with that as long as she has her own home where she goes and isn't trying to live in your rooming house.
Is the brother a problem? Drunk? Druggie? Loud? Ask the brother how often he thinks he will be coming by and give your permission for him to be there a small number of hours every week. Short stays, no overnights.
You'll just have to explain to the other tenants that he doesn't have friends visiting, he has family helping him out. --174.216.xx.xxx
Should I boot him? (by S i d [MO]) Posted on: Jan 12, 2018 6:05 AM
GARKL, you make me laugh in a good way. First you say other than being a slob and breaking visitation rules, he's not been a problem. Then you tell us about the time he kicked in his own door by locking himself out. And finish it off with he looks like he's on drugs and potentially clinically depressed. Anything else we should know about this "not a problem" tenant? ;-)
Maybe this is par for the course in rooming houses, but the phrase "not a problem" wouldn't be a phrase I'd use to describe him. "Time bomb", "major hassle", "soon to be leaving"...come to mind.
Keep posting this, though. I do enjoy the stories. Your spirit is admirable, and overall the rooming house does seem like a great strategy for amazing cash flow, as long as you're willing to deal with the different dynamics.
Should I boot him? (by GKARL [PA]) Posted on: Jan 12, 2018 7:18 AM
Here's why I'm on the fence: He's paid his rent and although I suspect he may be drugged on occasion, I've no proof and I don't know what sort of drug it could be if that's the case at all. If he is drugging it, it doesn't appear to be hard drugs like meth or heroin nor is it weed. He just seems spaced out on occasion.
I'm going to mull this over. I may can him and not give a reason after collecting this week's rent. --172.58.xxx.xxx