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Reference group? (by Dave [NY]) Oct 11, 2017 6:24 AM
       Reference group? (by NE [PA]) Oct 11, 2017 6:36 AM
       Reference group? (by RathdrumGal [ID]) Oct 11, 2017 7:38 AM
       Reference group? (by S i d [MO]) Oct 11, 2017 7:38 AM
       Reference group? (by S i d [MO]) Oct 11, 2017 7:42 AM
       Reference group? (by WMH [NC]) Oct 11, 2017 7:47 AM
       Reference group? (by AllyM [NJ]) Oct 11, 2017 11:34 AM
       Reference group? (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Oct 11, 2017 1:08 PM
       Reference group? (by LindaJ [NY]) Oct 11, 2017 4:26 PM
       Reference group? (by Vee [OH]) Oct 12, 2017 4:40 AM

Reference group? (by Dave [NY]) Posted on: Oct 11, 2017 6:24 AM

State Specific Question About: NEW YORK (NY)

So question for you guys, you become who you hang out with, the people we spend the time with determine our conversations, who we eat with we also do the same things they do, what they eat, and dress like they dress. Are you the friend who orders drinks, and apps or is it friend who orders healthy food and reads a good book or talks about their biz.

We assimilate to the behaviors of our friends which we raise or lower our performance to our reference group.

So my question to you is how many of us join the: country clubs, yacht clubs, symphony groups, dinning clubs, and charity groups? to help us become who we should become so which ones do you belong to? & what are yours?

Reference group? (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Oct 11, 2017 6:36 AM

I prefer to hang out with other landlords and investors only. I prefer to hang out with landlords and investors who are better than I am. Other than that, I hang out with my wife and my kids and family once in a while. Beyond that I prefer to be in the woods with the deer and the trees. Normal people in every day to society, I really don't want much to do with. --174.201.x.xx

Reference group? (by RathdrumGal [ID]) Posted on: Oct 11, 2017 7:38 AM

"To help us become who we should become..."

That would be my church! I am also active in my local political party, craft groups and square dancing. I use what I learn in #1 (church) to improve my dealings in all the rest.

Reference group? (by S i d [MO]) Posted on: Oct 11, 2017 7:38 AM

I hang out with a lot of folks from my church. Some may call that too narrow of a social group, but if you think about it, it only makes sense. I believe we have as the # 1 Core part of our identity that we are children of God, and in gratitude for all he has done for us we respond by living our lives with grace, forgiveness, dignity, and compassion.

Within the group of "church people", I tend to associate with sub-groups of entrepreneurs, business people, and musicians. Those are all things I enjoy and hope to become better at.

I can't think of any reason not to associate with good people on a regular basis. For ministry and counseling, yes. But as in "hang out as friends" You're right: I won't be the one who influences them. They'll influence me. I confess my weakness. It's too important to get this wrong.

Reference group? (by S i d [MO]) Posted on: Oct 11, 2017 7:42 AM

Sorry, that last paragraph was not properly proofed. The intent was, "I can't think of a good reason to hang out with people who display negative behavior and speech. I won't be the one who influences them. They will influence me."

I've seen it on Facebook. People I was friends with in high school who carried themselves well, spoke with respect, etc. Now trash talking and swearing at strangers online. One look at their page shows their "Friends" are all in the same boat: mostly negative politics, bashing anyone who has a different view, and the eternal social justice warriors bent on picking fights. No thanks. I block their posts / unfriend.

Reference group? (by WMH [NC]) Posted on: Oct 11, 2017 7:47 AM

Very few local friends. Long-term friends and family scattered across the country far and wide. Moved here after we both had left work so no work friends.

No local landlord group: area is dominated by big property management groups who handle the huge vacation rental homes, and do a few long-term SFH homes on the side.

The few other mom & pop landlords like us tend to be good ol' boys and gals with whom we do not have much in common.

Local culture is pretty much non-existent. Tried to start a book club and the one person who showed up ended up getting arrested later for grand larceny from Home Depot! :)

We do hang out with our grown children and sometimes their friends LOL! Either here or when we go visit them. --173.22.xx.xx

Reference group? (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Oct 11, 2017 11:34 AM

Local garden club for me though it does interfere with the actual care of plants with the stupid fund raisers etc. I didn't need groups to make me who I am but I always say that working at a local high end well known publisher was my finishing school I like to hang around with really smart people but I find them everywhere.

Reference group? (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Posted on: Oct 11, 2017 1:08 PM

I'm a fan of Charlie Tremendous Jones who said "5 years from now you will be the books your read and the people you associate with."

I make it a point to get around people more successful than me. Real estate seminars, conventions...

Multi-millionairses think differently than most people so I want to be around them.

Weekly lunch with about a dozen LLs.

Monthly LL Assoc meeting.

Church and Bible Study Fellowship.


Reference group? (by LindaJ [NY]) Posted on: Oct 11, 2017 4:26 PM

I am not big on 'groups'. I have a few close friends I see fairly often, maybe a few friends I touch base with a few times a year. My family is most important. All of these people are down to earth farmers, workers, plain dressers, home cooking, DIY people. I live in the country on many acres of land, so I don't even know the neighbors. I am very happy with my life, I don't need to impress, nor am I impressed with many people. --96.236.xx.xx

Reference group? (by Vee [OH]) Posted on: Oct 12, 2017 4:40 AM

I am an odd one, I like to play-plant in the dirt and go fishing-sleeping under a breeze.

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