State Specific Question About: NEW YORK (NY)

So question for you guys, you become who you hang out with, the people we spend the time with determine our conversations, who we eat with we also do the same things they do, what they eat, and dress like they dress. Are you the friend who orders drinks, and apps or is it friend who orders healthy food and reads a good book or talks about their biz.

We assimilate to the behaviors of our friends which we raise or lower our performance to our reference group.

So my question to you is how many of us join the: country clubs, yacht clubs, symphony groups, dinning clubs, and charity groups? to help us become who we should become so which ones do you belong to? & what are yours?

"To help us become who we should become..."

I hang out with a lot of folks from my church. Some may call that too narrow of a social group, but if you think about it, it only makes sense. I believe we have as the # 1 Core part of our identity that we are children of God, and in gratitude for all he has done for us we respond by living our lives with grace, forgiveness, dignity, and compassion.

Within the group of "church people", I tend to associate with sub-groups of entrepreneurs, business people, and musicians. Those are all things I enjoy and hope to become better at.

Sorry, that last paragraph was not properly proofed. The intent was, "I can't think of a good reason to hang out with people who display negative behavior and speech. I won't be the one who influences them. They will influence me."

Very few local friends. Long-term friends and family scattered across the country far and wide. Moved here after we both had left work so no work friends.

No local landlord group: area is dominated by big property management groups who handle the huge vacation rental homes, and do a few long-term SFH homes on the side.

The few other mom & pop landlords like us tend to be good ol' boys and gals with whom we do not have much in common.

Local culture is pretty much non-existent. Tried to start a book club and the one person who showed up ended up getting arrested later for grand larceny from Home Depot! :)

I'm a fan of Charlie Tremendous Jones who said "5 years from now you will be the books your read and the people you associate with."

I make it a point to get around people more successful than me. Real estate seminars, conventions...

Multi-millionairses think differently than most people so I want to be around them.

Weekly lunch with about a dozen LLs.

Monthly LL Assoc meeting.

Church and Bible Study Fellowship.