Step son lives in attick

Hi I need help please, my husband recently passed away, he allowed his 50 year old son to live in attick, due to the fact that he was homeless, I have to sell my home can't afford mortgage, the house sale is actually pending, I told Danny he had to leave, offered him

10.000 to get him out, he has become very nasty. Threating me, And now he's trying to blackmail me telling me he wants 60,000 or he won't leave and my house will go into forcloser he said the house was partly his dad's and I'll pay or risk being homeless, iam not going to pay him 60,000 if his dad wanted him to have that it would have been in the will,the house was left to me, and regardless iam on the deed. Mary

--24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 2:42 PM
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--24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 2:52 PM
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You can't make this stuff up. --174.201.x.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Vee [OH]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 3:24 PM
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I am sorry for your loss, change the locks after putting his belongings on the porch, attic may not have legal fire egress so the concept is good to get him off your coat tails and into society where he can become a productive citizen. --76.188.xxx.xx

Step son lives in attick (by Alan [CA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 3:27 PM
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Sounds like the house belongs entirely to you.

You will have to hire a lawyer and evict the stepson. --73.158.xxx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 3:55 PM
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I have contacted a lawyer, the problem is he's demanding 60,000 or he won't leave, and my home will go into forclose, he has also threaten to hurt me in the past, now that my husband is gone iam afraid of him, he said pay or be homeless today, iam terrified I'll lose everything but iam not going to pay him. Help please he's basically blackmailing me!!! --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by William [AR]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 3:59 PM
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Please get a restraining order or order of protection. Then evict him. If you are selling to an investor, he may take the house with him in it and evict him. I have done that in the past.

--64.250.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 4:02 PM
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Also wanted to add yes attick is illegal and he knows it, so he has threatened to have me fined, I can not change locks and put his stuff on porch its against the law, even though he's in attick THANKYOU Mary --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by RB [MI]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 4:05 PM
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Call the Cops and cut the cord.

Nothing worse than a Clown in the attic ! --71.13.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 4:06 PM
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I can't get a restraint order, he said he will tell judge I am a lair trying to get him out quicker trust me he's crazy but he does a lot of research so he knows what he can do and say and I can't do a thing, except watch my house go into forclosure --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Steve [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 4:09 PM
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Mary, call elder services & ask for their help resolving these issues. --72.93.xxx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 4:19 PM
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THANKYOU all, Steve what is elder service and how old do u need to be to be a elder lol, I just turned 60, I know I sound like a baby but he's a hateful scary human being, if I told u guys half the stuff he has said to me you would know just how scared iam, and yes I believe he could actually hurt me if I push to hard to get him out, he's not normal and he wants the money, right now he's not getting vi,iolent just demanding the money --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 4:19 PM
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Turn off the power and water and let him think about his choices for a few days. It's still warm, he may negotiate. --50.32.xxx.xx

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 4:20 PM
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though I think I might try to get a restraint order just to be safe --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 4:24 PM
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A restraining order will do absolutely nothing if you go over there and keep messing with him.

If he's nutty, a judge's ink on paper is worthless.

Handle this through the phone with a lawyer and police and ignore all attempts by him to contact you.

Or...

Let it foreclose and move on. --50.32.xxx.xx

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 4:29 PM
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Okay THANKYOU for your help --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Ed [PA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 5:03 PM
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Foreclosure takes many months, much longer than eviction. If you are concerned for your safety get out of the house, seems like you were going to move anyway. After you are out and at a safe distance, get a lawyer to begin eviction. I would assume as he was family that you do not have a written lease and therefore no proof that he is limited to the illegal attic, I assume except for an oral agreement he could actually access the rest of the house. --96.236.xxx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Lynda [TX]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 5:17 PM
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Mary, You are allowing him to bamboozle you. Here are your steps:

1) go to the police now and report his threats to your safety, and his threats to do damage to the property--do this first so you are on record.

2) get a restraining order against him--whatever they can put on it--within so many feet or whatever. Don't let them tell you this is a civil matter. You are afraid for your life and you can demand the restraint. If they refuse, have the precinct Capt give you a letter saying that. If anything happens to you--the police that refused to help you are now in the spotlight! They won't want that.

3) go to your city's elder service and report all that is happening. Let then also make a report you came to them for help. Even if you are not 65 yet they need to make a report (for the record) of your situation. Take a copy of that report.

4) Once these are in place, find an eviction lawyer and go thru with the eviction. At this point never speak again unless thru the lawyer. Do not listen to any of his garbage on what he can do to you. Just let the lawyer handle it. --108.87.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 5:20 PM
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No Ed the attick has its own entrance I have a 3 family attick is on other side of house, and no their is no lease it was only suppose to be temporary , then my husband died from brain cancer, which left me with the issue my husband kept him away from me, I do not go near him when I offer erred the money I was not alone and we were outside I do not go on that side of house.,my husband had no life insurance and trust me he did not offer to help pay for funnel I took out hardship from 401thankyou for giving advice it is not a option to lose the house I must sell I do not want to sleep in my car. --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by GA [GA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 5:21 PM
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Your first post stated the house sale is pending.

Do you have a signed contract?

If so, you will need to move anyway. Move and DO NOT tell anyone where you have moved to.

If you have $10k to give this guy, you should instead be using those funds to pay your mortgage and keep the house out of foreclosure, and keep your credit clean.

If this money is coming from the proceeds of the sale, the sale has to go through before you get any money, and for the sale to go through, it would be better for everyone to be out of the house.

If you have a pending sale, you MOVE. Again, do not tell anyone where you have moved to. If he does not leave prior to the sale, you tell the buyer they can hold money from the proceeds of the sale to fund evicting him. You can have a lawyer tell him that he can have either a few thousand after he leaves the house, or they can use that money to evict him; his choice. --74.190.xxx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 5:29 PM
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Money would come from sale if I had 10,000 I would keep my home, I work but do not make enough to pay mortgage which has double since my husband passed buyer will not buy the house with him here and he knows it that's why he's being so nasty plus he feels he's entitle to part of the house.as for me moving I can't till house sells --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by JR [ME]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 5:51 PM
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Mary, you need local help, not from well-meaning internet strangers. Do you have a relative or friend close by who can help you with this? How about a leader from your church? Your posts infer your husband's son is scary and threatening and violent. There must be a domestic violence service available to you, they could help you. Alternatively, assuming you have nothing in writing about his renting from you, in fact. He has never paid rent, and he doesn't get utility bills in his name at that address, you could, with th help of some hired goons, wait until he leaves some time, quickly change the locks and throw everything he owns into the street. He is not your tenant and you do not need to worry about his complaining to the police. If he does bring the police into it, just cry and wail and say he threatens you, or even better, deny that you know him and have your paid goons back up your story. --98.13.xx.x

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 6:18 PM
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THANKYOU Jr, yes I need answers, in order to get domestic violence help he needs to hurt me which he hadn't done just threatens to do it, as for utility bills he does not have any, though he uses this address for drivers license and Mail he always had even when he wasn't in the attick, so he had proof, it is not leagal to change locks or I would have done so. I don't have paid goons lol --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by JR [ME]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 6:37 PM
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Mary, how do you know that your local domestic violence service will not help you unless you are assaulted? That doesn't sound correct to me. Have you asked them directly?

Also, how do you know that it is illegal to change the locks on the private residence tht you own and bar the return of your stepson? That also does not sound correct. Have you discussed this directly with an attorney whom you actually hired? --98.13.xx.x

Step son lives in attick (by Mary [MA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 6:49 PM
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The lawyer I have told me I could not do that, said it was illeag, as for the Doestic violence you are correct I do not know for sure just guessing, and the lawyer I hired to close on my house knows about step son and I did ask if I could change locks, he said I can not because he has proof due to the effect that he uses this address for mail. --24.63.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Lynda [TX]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 7:39 PM
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Mary, go back and re-read hat I wrote. First you set yourself up with backup documentation (police, elder care, domestic violence, whatever).

Then you go all the way to get the restraining order. That becomes "heavy" valuable document on your side in court that your eviction attorney can show the judge.

I believe you have received some wrong info about the lockout. The lawyer is quoting LL/tenant laws. You don't have that situation. Find a lawyer that specializes in eviction law. You are the owner of the home(a private home) that when your husband owned it, he could extend such residency at will. But when you own the home--you don't have to. The person the son had verbal agreement doesn't exist anymore and neither does the verbal agreement exit.

I also believe you have wrong info on the ability of social services to help you. No one can turn away a woman who is being forced by circumstances to live with a foul, threatening 50 year old male in their home. Even if all they can do is file a report of your situation-it is something in your favor.

Instead of believing the things HE told you, you must go to your local resources for back up. He has stepped over the line of legal behavior, so you must enlist your local resources to protect you! --108.87.xx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Robert J [CA]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 7:40 PM
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First I would take all of the important documents and valuables and lock them up in a new Bank Safety Deposit Box -- only in your name. Deeds, Insurance papers, etc. If your step son get's a hold of your documents and valuables, you may never see them again.

Then make sure you documents via pictures all of the items in the house. Put those pictures also in your safety deposit box.

Now that you've documented your possessions, it will be harder for your step-son to claim them.

A homeless person is sometimes mentally sick. Meaning you can not reason with them. You will need to talk to the local police, in person and the city attorney.

To move out a tenant, even one that doesn't pay rent, will take an eviction unless you have proof you are in danger. Then a restraining order may work.. Again you need to speak with experts on this subject. It's going to take work....

--47.156.xx.xx

Step son lives in attick (by Ken [NY]) Posted on: Aug 25, 2017 8:04 PM
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You are acting like you really don't want to solve the problem,you are content to be a victim.I would put his crap on the curb and change the locks,i wouldn't care if it is illegal or not.Do you have any children of your own who can help? --24.25.xxx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Steve [MA]) Posted on: Aug 26, 2017 3:37 AM
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Mary, what part of MA is this building in?

--72.93.xxx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by JR [ME]) Posted on: Aug 26, 2017 4:39 AM
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Mary, your expressions of helplessness and relying on non-expert others and cherry picking their advice emphasisng that there is nothing you can do to improve your situation is textbook behavior of a victim of domestic abuse. Dial 411 NOW and ask for contact info for your closest domestic violence service. They WILL offer moral support, connect you with legal resources to discuss options like getting a restraining order, whether you can simply put your step son out, and even offer emergency shelter for you if needed.

CALL 411 NOW ! --98.13.xx.x

Step son lives in attick (by tryan [MA]) Posted on: Aug 26, 2017 10:01 AM
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So it's an illegal attic apartment with it's own entrance ... start the eviction. That'll get you all in front of a judge.

In MA eviction is a 3 month process. Don't delay. --74.75.xxx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Aug 26, 2017 12:53 PM
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The first thing you need to do is pack a suitcase and get to a small hotel, a friend's house or a motel.

Then you call a lawyer that you find in the yellow pages of the phone book at the library and you go see him. He should be willing to work for nothing until the house is sold and then get paid.

He will tell you what to do about getting your son out and the house sold. But first, get out. Get all the paperwork, deed etc, out also. --73.33.xxx.xxx

Step son lives in attick (by Kathi [OH]) Posted on: Aug 27, 2017 2:29 PM
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What Lynda said.

I would also contact your local Real Estate Investors Association (REIA) or Landlord's club. The National Real Estate Investors Association has a list on their web site.Ask them for their input and for suggestions for lawyers who specialize in evictions.

--134.228.xxx.xx

Step son lives in attick (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Aug 27, 2017 6:32 PM
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I think she needs an estate lawyer. In some states, like NJ, a child is entitled to 40 percent of anything that is owned a parent in their own name not jointly. I understand her name is on the deed but someone needs to check local laws and what is it worth if the kid kills her for money? --73.33.xxx.xxx

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