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Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Marlene Giese [WI]) Jan 10, 2009 5:34 PM
       Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Irish [MD]) Jan 10, 2009 5:45 PM
       Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Kathy [OH]) Jan 10, 2009 6:31 PM
       Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Tina [NC]) Jan 10, 2009 6:32 PM
       Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by p [LA]) Jan 10, 2009 6:45 PM
       Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by x [X]) Jan 10, 2009 6:45 PM
       Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Nancy [IN]) Jan 10, 2009 9:15 PM
       Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by LC [IL]) Jan 11, 2009 4:49 AM
       Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Wallace CPM [VA]) Jan 11, 2009 5:29 AM
       Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Josh [CA]) Jan 11, 2009 11:12 AM

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Marlene Giese [WI]) Posted on: Jan 10, 2009 5:34 PM

My friend has a rental duplex that has been rented to a "couple" They are boyfriend/girlfriend - not married, but they BOTH signed the lease. I went with my friend today to collect some of the rent. They are in arrears of about a month.

The girl's parents were there. The girl has a money order for part of the payment. Her parents had gotten a call from her at 2 a.m. the night before that the boyfriend was being abusive. He hit her several times with a pillow. They told her to go in the bedroom and lock the door. The boyfriend left. He later called my friend (landlord) and told her verbally that he was moving out and would no longer be sending money.

According to the girl's parents, the boyfriend had NEVER held up his part of paying any of the rent. The parents were willing to help their daughter pay the rent monthly. They wanted the locks changed.

My friend said, "I can't tell if that's legal, because the boyfriend's name is also on the lease." The parents and the girl went to the police, and the police told her to have the locks changed. Can my friend just take their word? There are no attorneys available until Monday morning. The girl is scared to death that the boyfriend is going to come back. In fact, he called her and told her that he was going to come back tonight while she's at work.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Irish [MD]) Posted on: Jan 10, 2009 5:45 PM

Hmmm...sounds to me that the girlfriend/daughter needs to get the heck out of the rental and go stay with her folks for a least for the weekend until she can perchance get a restaining order on Monday....possibly along with a request from the court to change the locks. On the other hand, even if she changed the locks herself (needs to understand that they need to provide the LL a copy of the new key), if the boyfriend is that abusive, chances are that he will break in the door anyways, or break into a window, so the daughter would be much safer camping out at the parents for a while. One could also visit the police dept. to inquire if any incident reports have been filed for additional evidence for the rental file.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Kathy [OH]) Posted on: Jan 10, 2009 6:31 PM

If they are in arrears on the rent, your friend needs to start eviction proceedings. The young woman needs to return to her parents home, where she will be safe, and figure out what to do with her life.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Tina [NC]) Posted on: Jan 10, 2009 6:32 PM

I have found that after years of being a LL to stay as far away from domestic issues as possible. If locks need changing, let them change them and supply you with a key. It is their problem to change locks unless they are broken. Chances are good that they will get back together. If one of them hates you, because you took sides, they will leave. I have gone as far as telling tenants that their "personal issues" are not any of my business. If rent is not paid, evict. Damages come out of the deposit. Domestic issues should be taken care of by the police.

I have just read this again and see the part about the rent in arrears, they should already be evicted. --24.74.xx.xx

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by p [LA]) Posted on: Jan 10, 2009 6:45 PM

If they are already behind, start eviction process. I would demand payment in full, not just her half.check your state law, i think accepting partial payment gets them more time??make her do what she has to do to get the full amount. it is not your fault nor your problem that they had a dispute. you are in business to collect rent every month.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by x [X]) Posted on: Jan 10, 2009 6:45 PM

I'll agree with Tina (NC) here. I'll also add that there is every possibility that she will invite him right back in later or tomorrow. There is the possibility is that he is a possessive, manipulative, type and will beat her further (abusive types usually do). This can go on and on (see "drama "). She or the father may also employ .357 justice. Try to stay out of tenants personal lives. Stick to business.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Nancy [IN]) Posted on: Jan 10, 2009 9:15 PM

None of that is remotely relevant to you. This is one reason I try to avoid unmarried couples, and why I never, ever allow separate checks.

One check for the rent or evict. How they work out their personal arrangements is not your business.

She should vacate the unit if she is afraid. She can change the locks and give you a key, but it won't matter.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by LC [IL]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2009 4:49 AM

In IL, we have to change locks, but under very specific guidelines.

Don't listen to the police: they don't know LL law! As others have said, this is not your problem, the late rent is.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Wallace CPM [VA]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2009 5:29 AM

Both are still responsible * PARENTS will be paying EVERYTHING to keep daughter's good credit.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend Disp (by Josh [CA]) Posted on: Jan 11, 2009 11:12 AM

This is a year Lease?

The cleanest way to handle this is the girl and boy move out. They pay the rent that is owed to the LL (girl's parents most likely) LL is paid until a new tenant is found. They are breaking the lease.

Your friend needs to have a rental criteria. These two would not pass mine. Applicants must have 1 years prior rental history, (they would fail), each tenant must be able to pay for the entire rent by them selves.(They would fail). Each Tenant must have a year of employment history. If a student then they must have a co-signer usually a parent or guardian.

(they would fail)


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